It’s been said that laughter is the best medicine. This saying has been around for a long time, and is one of those old sayings that actually means exactly what it says. One of the best methods, many have found, of stress relief is laughter as it is a great way to help you get rid of stress.

By laughing, studies have found endorphins are released in your body, along with other healthy hormones. In fact, if you really get going in laughter, you find that it also gives you a decent physical workout. After having a good laugh, you tend to develop a positive frame of mind that will help you bond better with those you shared a good laugh with.

Another form of funny stress relief is playing games. Everyone has laughed and played as children, and doing the same thing as adults can be a form of funny stress relief. There are many games you can play alone or with a partner so that you can enjoy yourself and get some relief from stress.

In today’s modern world, many have personal computers and internet connection. With this, it is possible for you to play games on the computer and get funny stress relief. There are many websites on the internet that offer various games which can be played not only to relieve stress, but also to give you the mental challenge you need. With puzzles and other intellectually challenging games, you tend to get diverted from the causes of your stress, and you can be free from your worries and everyday problems.

You can relive your childhood and play a game of Tetris or classic Monopoly, or just spend some time in front of the computer to get some funny stress relief. You will find yourself slipping into a totally different world that provides you some relief from your mental and physical stress.

Other forms of entertainment such as music and television are also great stress relievers. You can watch comedies or cartoons to get a good laugh and experience funny stress relief. There are also many types of music with funny lyrics that will make you laugh and forget about all your problems.

Funny stress relief is a great way to leave behind the stress that you experience in your everyday life. It will help you achieve a positive attitude towards life, and change your perception about things around you.

Whenever you feel down or stressed out, try to find an activity that will enable you to laugh and feel joyous. If you can frequently spend an hour or two doing this kind of activity, you will find that your life will be much less stressful.

Get a life – get a life coach.  If the life coaching revolution hasn’t reached your home yet then watch out because it soon will!  Not that long ago life coaching was an expensive service only really taken up by senior executives and board members of top global companies.  However, the more the benefits of coaching have become to be accepted the more the service has started to filter out of the boardroom and into ordinary lives of people all over the world.

Life coaching is becoming increasingly popular with the everyday man and woman on the street.  That is because it can offer such huge benefits.  Yes, the global companies benefit hugely from their executives receiving good quality coaching, but equally now the checkout operator at your local supermarket is also realising the immense benefits of regular coaching sessions.  He or she is not getting coaching to be a better leader, but simply to get a better life!

Walk down any high street and I guarantee you will be passing ordinary people who are achieving extraordinary things by having life coaching sessions. 

This life coaching revolution is not happening because it is the current fad.  It has grown organically, without huge advertising and television campaigns.  It has happened mainly through word of mouth.  That only happens because something works and produces results.

Life coaching can, in a very short space of time, help you to make the most of your assets.  So much so that it can literally change your life around.  It can help you reduce the negative and increase the positive experiences in your life.

Costs have reduced dramatically as life coaching has gone mainstream.  You can have a face to face session now for little more than the cost of a restaurant meal.  A lot of life coaches are also offering telephone and email coaching and these come at an even lower cost.  It is well within most budgets to have a regular monthly or fortnightly coaching session and once you get started, and begin to realise the rewards, you will wonder how you ever lived without it!

You have a choice – to ignore the opportunity, or to get a life. 

We have all had our share of stress..

I always was cynical towards people who complained of experiencing misfortunes. I used to say that they do not have a positive attitude and whatever they anticipate comes to pass. “As a man thinketh, so is he.”

But now I think differently. Some things can be learned only by experience. Some may be pleasant and some unpleasant. But it is necessary to have both good and bad experiences.

Last year we lost our house in a fire. It was a terrible loss because the property was under insured. My wife and some of my friends questioned me as to why this disaster should happen to me, a positive person. I myself did not know why! But I knew one thing. Everything that happens to me happens for good. What good it will be and when it will be, I had no idea. I will have to wait and recognize the good when it comes and be thankful for it.

Since the house that burned down was a single family home in a duplex zone, we decided to build a duplex. When we submitted the plan to City Hall, our architect found that we could construct a three story triplex. So now we have a three story triplex which gives a beautiful view of the ocean and mountains. Freighters and cruise ships from all over the world anchor in front of our house, and sea birds and eagles provide us with endless entertainment. We also have an income from the other two portions of our house. Thus, the fire was a blessing in disguise.

If the fire had gutted less than 70% of the house, we would have had to repair the damage and would not be permitted to demolish the house and build a new one. The fire brigade was a little slow to respond and that resulted in more than 70% of the house being burned. That little delay helped us, though that was not the intention of the fire brigade

Needless to say, during this time we suffered a lot of stress.

All stress is created by mind and the ability to overcome stress is also created by mind. Some events can create very great stress and calamity.

First, let us look at some of the damaging consequences of stress. An actual incident was narrated by Father Jerome Morella de Sorento, an Italian missionary in the Congo. A young man spent a night with his friend. According to the tribal custom young men are prohibited from eating wild hen for breakfast. Unknown to the visitor the host prepared a wild hen and served for breakfast. When the guest enquired, the host said that it was not a wild hen. A few years later the two met again. Again the host prepared a wild hen for breakfast. Again the guest asked if it was a wild hen and the host replied “Yes.” The guest refused to eat. The friend laughed and said why should you refuse to eat it now when you were perfectly happy to eat it last time you came. As soon as the guest realized that the breakfast that he ate a few years back was wild hen, he began to tremble violently and was dead in 24 hours.

What was the cause of his death? Was it the violation of the tribal custom? It could not have been for he did not eat the hen that morning and when he violated the custom few years before, nothing ill happened. It was the stress of the realization of his violating the tribal custom
a few years back.

Another example illustrating the deadly consequences of stress was written by Dr. John K.Williams, a member of the Board of the National Association for Mental Health. He wrote in his book, “The Wisdom Of Your Subconscious Mind”, that a physician was given permission to experiment on a criminal sentenced to death. The prisoner was blind-folded and told that he would be painlessly bled to death instead of going through the torture of hanging. He was placed on a table. The Physician made a small incision on his hand but not deep enough to cause any bleeding and a small stream of running water was allowed to trickle into a bowl as if blood were trickling form the prisoner’s hand. The physician made suggestions to the effect that he was bleeding to death. In a short time the prisoner died showing all symptoms of cerebral anemia. though he never lost any blood. Here again death was the result of stress created by his mind.

Dr. Holmes and Dr. Rahe of the University of Washington Medical School, Seattle, interviewed many sick people and found that their ailment could be related to stress they had suffered during the two previous years. They came up with a check list of 43 items to which they gave numerical values. For instance:

For death of a spouse they gave 100 points

divorce 73

personal injury or illness 50

retirement 45

trouble with the boss 23

Christmas 12

They found that if our score in one year is over 300 points, we have a 90% chance of falling seriously ill during the next few years. Homes-Rahe test is widely used for statistical analysis of the health of army personnel in the U.S.

It is now an admitted fact that 50% to 80% of all diseases are psychosomatic. Many cases of cancer are attributable to social stress. Ulcers, high blood pressure, arthritis, chronic back pain, skin disorders, headaches, allergies, upset stomachs, asthma, hay fever, impotence, insomnia, diabetes and alcoholism are considered to be stress related.

High school football players from families having stress problems are likely to suffer more serious injuries than those from other families.

But by anticipation we invite accidents to happen. Therefore, when stress comes, recognize the stress but realize and be confident that some good is coming and look out for that good that is coming.

When we cultivate this habit, stress will always end up as a benefit. Try it, expect it and see that it happens every time

In addition to worries about health and petty things, we have a long list of “what if’s”. For example, “What if my house is robbed when I am away?” You know the story of the woman who had 23 padlocks and 20 dogs to guard her for she feared she would be robbed, raped, and murdered. She spent sleepless nights in fear and trembling.

Some of us worry about what others think about us. If we knew how little they thought about us, if ever they did, we would get over that worry in a hurry.

The interesting fact is that though worry is the cause of so much stress, worry can be imaginary.

40% of your worries may never happen

30% of your worries are about events that have already happened and nothing can be done about them

10% of your worries are about petty things

12% of your worries are about your health or diet, your weight, etc. and will only aggravate the situation.

There is the story of the hypochondriac who went to see his doctor. When the hypochondriac was describing his imaginary diseases, the doctor was making short notes. The doctor was called away to answer a phone call. When the doctor was away, the hypochondriac peeked at the notes and saw the letters “SOB”. He was very angry. When the doctor returned, the hypochondriac questioned him as to how dare he make such remarks about him. The doctor replied “First of all, my notes are my personal property and you should not have looked at them. Secondly the letters “SOB” stand for short of breath and not what you think.

All stress is not bad. Medical investigation has concluded that under-stress can cause depression, indigestion, overeating, chronic irritability, fatigue, inability to concentrate, and many more undesirable habits. Too much or too little is not good.

Stress can be useful and necessary. If there is no stress on the strings, not a sound could be coaxed from the most beautiful Stradivarius and the highly prized diamond watch will not run for one minute but for the stress on its spring.

Too much tension, the strings of the violin and springs of the watch will snap and too little will make them equally useless.

Some stress is beneficial by stimulating and strengthening us. What matters is not the event which creates the worry but how we view the event. An event that causes constant worry to one can be a very useful challenge to another.

When we look at the lives of great people, we find that their greatness depended upon their ability to overcome the tragic events in their lives and to turn them into events of blessings.

St Paul wrote the epistles in prison. Charles Kettering broke his hand while cranking an automobile and hence he invented the self starter. He had a sign in his laboratory, “Do not bring me your successes, they weaken me. Bring me your problems, they strengthen me.”

As a boy, Edison worked as a candy butcher on the train between Port Huron and Detroit. One day he was late for the train and was running along to get on board. The conductor literally pulled him aboard by his ears. His eardrums were damaged and he lost 90% of his hearing. Edison claimed that his deafness helped him in that he could hear the loud ticking of the telegraph ticker amidst the chattering by people which he could not hear. This deafness led him into the unexplored field of sound and its transmission. He patented 1100 inventions in the fields of sound and its transmission, photography, and electricity before he died in 1931 at the age of 90.

When we are under stress, our awareness, our senses, and our mind are sharpened. We all know many people who work best under stress. But they do not permit stress to create anxiety in them.

There are many ways to deal with stress. Some of them are simple and are intended to get our minds off the object of stress. Some therapists recommend transient remedies such as a warm bath, going for a walk, cutting the grass, baking bread, writing down your peeves, finding out what we are afraid of and so on. .

Getting our mind off the issue is good not only for stress but also in dealing with many other vexatious problems.

Some other common ways of combatting stress are to take a couple of tranquilizers, mix an alcoholic drink, smoke pot, eat, watch television, go to bed and cry, take it out on our dear ones but these responses will only land us in greater trouble.

There are three better methods by which we will be able to overcome stress.

The first method is to forgive yourself for the past mistakes you think you made. There are many people who cannot get rid of their guilty feelings over such mistakes.

The famous writer, Guy de Maupassant wrote a story entitled “A Piece of String.” It is the story of a man who saw a string on a busy market place. He bent down and picked it up thinking he could use it. He was accused of picking up a lost wallet and was arrested and put in prison. Fortunately, the wallet was found the next day. This man could not get over the insult and indignities he suffered. He brooded over it day and night. The piece of string had become an obsession. He neglected his work and went from person to person complaining of how he had been wrongly arrested and imprisoned. He died of a broken heart mumbling “A piece of string.”

The piece of string became an obsession because he was finding fault with himself for having picked up the piece of string. If he had focussed on the person who accused him and forgiven him, the obsession would not have persisted, for he would have had to forget the offence and forgive the offender.

A wise man once said that when a person undresses for bed at night, he should also undress his mind from the mistakes and failures of the day. The art of forgetting is a virtue we ought to acquire.

Second method to eliminate stress is forgiveness of the offender. Forgive others for the offenses they have committed against you. We read in the Gospel “Forgive if ye have ought against any.” Some people say, “I can forgive but I cannot forget.” Henry Ward Beecher, the famous American preacher at Brooklyn, New York, said “Such a statement is another way of saying that I will not forgive.”

Benjamin Franklin said, “It is the lot of man to suffer. It is also his fortune to forget.” and we forget because we must and not because we will.

Little vicious minds abound with anger and revenge and are incapable of feeling the pleasure of forgiving their enemies. You will experience the release of strain, the relaxation of body and mind when you forgive a person. You have no idea what great treasure lies in store for you until you experience it. For your own sake, for your own peace of mind, for your own health, for your own joy, learn to forgive.

The third method is to control our brain waves. Learning to control our brain waves will bring great joy and pleasure . Meditation and yoga are the initial methods for learning to control brain waves. Biofeedback also enables a person to control brain waves and thereby gain control over stress.

Finally, when we search earnestly for the purpose of our lives and the Creator’s purpose in creating the universe, with all the living beings with human beings in the top rung, with the highest power of deduction and induction among all, we will realize that the Creator was looking for companionship. The stresses we experience throughout our lives are challenges to make us strong and fitting companions for the Creator.

Stress can be defined as a nature’s way of letting you know that your mind and body have had enough. In case of stress, forces present in the outside world affect the individual in an adverse manner. People tend to respond to stress in many ways. These responses in turn, affect both the individual and the environment in different ways. This is the reason that all living being constantly interchange with their surroundings in terms of behavior as well as physically.

There are major differences in the way a living creature relate to the environment. These differences play an important role in the survival of an individual.

A lot of stress experienced in daily life can make one think negatively or take stress as a negative experience. However, experts feel that biologically stress can be either of the below:

• Negative experience

• Positive experience

• Neutral experience

Generally, stress is associated to internal as well as external factors. The internal factors include your body’s capacity to respond to stress producing factors, your body’s ability to deal with external factors that induce stress.

The external factors include the following:

• The physical environment

• Your job

• Your relationship with people around you

• Your home

• Challenges

• Difficulties

• Expectations

• Obstructions

The internal factors tend to put an impact to your ability to handle stress. The nutrition that you get, your health, level of fitness, emotional state, and amount of sleep and rest you get are responsible for your ability to handle stress.

Stress has known to result in evolutionary change. Experts feel that the species that tend to adapt the best to major causes of stress survived. These evolved in to the planet and different animal kingdoms we get to see around us.

The human being is considered to be the most adaptive creature existing on this planet. This is because the evolution of human brain and the important part known as the neo-cortex existed. This adaptability is contributed by the transformation and stressors that one has suffered and mastered.

- Stress and Its Function

As soon as we come across something that upsets us in a certain manner that scares, makes angry, nervous, sad or pissed-off, a portion of your brain just out stress hormones inside the body. These hormones bring about certain changes in your body. You can feel your heart beating faster, palms sweat and give your knots in your stomach.

There are several bad effects of stress on your body. You can suffer from bad health. Too much stress can make you feel lousy and induce negativity. You will feel unhappy about everything that happens around you.

The stress hormones in your body will make you feel upset. Stress can also result in mental and a lot of physical strain. You may also suffer from headaches, irritability, tensions and in severe cases, heart palpitations.

You should take special care to keep yourself away from stress as far as possible. Take counseling sessions to come out of stress creating situations.

At home, at school, at work, and with their friends, it seems like teenagers are under constant pressure. They are under pressure to succeed, to perform, to excel, and to fit in. And, after a while, all of the pressures and demands being placed on them can seem overwhelming.

Academic Demands

School can be a pretty demanding place. Not only do teens have to worry about getting good grades, and doing well on tests and exams, many suffer from homework overload.

College Aspirations

Now days, high school freshmen are already starting to worry about choosing the right career, being able to get into a good college, and being able to afford to go to college at all. By the time they are juniors or seniors, the pressures on a teenager to make the right decisions to ensure their future success is high.

Job Pressures

On top of a heavy school load, many teenagers also have to deal with a part time, or even full time, job. So much of their time is spent either working or doing school work that they have very little free time during which they can just relax and have fun.

Family Issues

A teenager’s daily life is stressful enough, even when things are good at home. But, when a teenager has to deal with family problems (like abuse, parents who are constantly arguing, parents who are getting divorced, parents suffering from substance abuse, or a sick parent or sibling) the other pressures in their lives can be even harder to deal with.

Self Image

Many teenagers feel a great deal of stress over trying to fit a certain image. They feel like they have to look a certain way, wear the right clothes, have the right hairstyle, or drive the right car. And they believe that, if they don’t fit that image, they will be the objects of scorn and ridicule.

Peer Pressure

When you’re a teenager, it can be difficult not to go along with the rest of the crowd. For example, a teenager might have no desire to smoke but, fearing their friends who smoke might think they are immature or uncool if they refuse, might give in when they are offered a cigarette.

In romantic relationships, teenagers might feel the pressure to do things they aren’t ready for in order to keep from losing their boyfriend or girlfriend.

What are the Effects of Teenage Stress?

As with adults, stress can cause teenagers many physical, mental, and emotional problems.

Physically, teens who feel stressed out might suffer from headaches, fatigue, muscle aches, weight gain, stomach aches, and skin problems like acne.

Teens under stress can also experience emotional problems like depression, anxiety, and low self esteem. Finally, teens under stress can also experience behavioral problems, like drug or alcohol abuse, eating disorders, aggressiveness, and social withdrawal.

Teenagers are under pressure every day. But learning to deal with teenage stress will make them healthier, happier, and better able to handle the challenges and demands of daily life.