Posted on : 05-08-2009 | By : admin | In : Self Improvement
The quotes, “If you always do what you’ve always done you will always get what you’ve always gotten;” and Albert Einstein’s statement, “The definition of insanity is doing the something again and again and expecting different results,” clearly and concisely point out that in order to effect change one needs to do something different.
It is obvious to many that change is the solution, but what to change is the question. It is difficult to know what to change. There are a plethora of self-help books from the Road Less Traveled to Conversations with God and Dr. Phil’s books.
While you might know what behavior you want to effect and even what behavior you want to eliminate, but do you know the underlying thought(s) and feeling(s) which drive the unwanted behavior.
Everything we do has a secondary gain. On the surface each person is convinced that his/her behavior, even those that are considered dysfunctional or self-destructive—using so-called recreational drugs, smoking, being over weight—are part and parcel with life—and have little or no interference with leading one toward ones desired goals.
These secondary gains of negative behaviors are seldom obvious, but none-the-less is a misguided attempt at the happiness, health and fulfillment people desire. No one wakes up and says, “I want a miserable, unfulfilled, unhealthy life.” What then prompts people to continue dysfunctional or self-destructive behaviors? More often than not it is fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of looking at oneself; fear of learning what one fears the most—something is wrong with me.
To begin the process of uncovering the secondary gains of your behavior you need to answers these four questions:
1) How does____ benefit my life? (Although this question seems to blame the victim, that such a painful syndrome could have “benefits,” remember that all behaviors, attitudes and even diseases have underlying secondary benefits or we would not create or maintain them.)
2) How is ____ a detriment to my life?
3) How would not doing _____ be a benefit to my life?
4) How would not doing _____ be a detriment to my life?
Unconscious blocks are nearly impossible for you to identify and resolve on your own. It is often quite difficult to allow oneself to feel and express the various emotions which were originally felt and suppressed because to feel the feelings without adequate process is too painful. Unfortunately, processing events with loaded emotions is seldom done adequately. And yet, even now, unless this is done, healing will only become a partial achievement without a complete resolution of the issues involved—with continued negative impact consciously and unconsciously.
With the benefit of hypnosis and Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) these negative blocks can be eliminated. Once the negative blocks are eliminated at the core, you can keep your ego balanced by keeping your energy and focus on; who you truly are and your abilities.
Hypnosis is a dynamic and vital healing process embracing all aspects health care. Hypnosis is client-centered with its focus on the discovery of the origin of a person’s issues. Through the process of hypnosis/regression the unconscious mind goes to the original cause, which then gives the person and practitioner the opportunity to process the original feelings surrounding the original experience/cause. These surrounding feelings can be healed, thus empowering you to live the life you want to live. This study confirms—Hypnosis is more effective and works more quickly than traditional talk-therapy or psychoanalysis. In a hypnotic state, you are more receptive to new ideas and you can more effectively process the emotions linked to the experiences, which created pain, fear, sadness, anger, guilt, shame, humiliation and low self-esteem.
Through Hypnosis you connect with your subconscious mind, which puts YOU in control of your subconscious mind—the most powerful and empowering aspect of your brain.
American Health Magazine reported these findings from a comparison study.
• Psychoanalysis: Creates a 38% recovery after 600 sessions
It is obvious to many that change is the solution, but what to change is the question. It is difficult to know what to change. There are a plethora of self-help books from the Road Less Traveled to Conversations with God and Dr. Phil’s books.
While you might know what behavior you want to effect and even what behavior you want to eliminate, but do you know the underlying thought(s) and feeling(s) which drive the unwanted behavior.
Everything we do has a secondary gain. On the surface each person is convinced that his/her behavior, even those that are considered dysfunctional or self-destructive—using so-called recreational drugs, smoking, being over weight—are part and parcel with life—and have little or no interference with leading one toward ones desired goals.
These secondary gains of negative behaviors are seldom obvious, but none-the-less is a misguided attempt at the happiness, health and fulfillment people desire. No one wakes up and says, “I want a miserable, unfulfilled, unhealthy life.” What then prompts people to continue dysfunctional or self-destructive behaviors? More often than not it is fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of looking at oneself; fear of learning what one fears the most—something is wrong with me.
To begin the process of uncovering the secondary gains of your behavior you need to answers these four questions:
1) How does____ benefit my life? (Although this question seems to blame the victim, that such a painful syndrome could have “benefits,” remember that all behaviors, attitudes and even diseases have underlying secondary benefits or we would not create or maintain them.)
2) How is ____ a detriment to my life?
3) How would not doing _____ be a benefit to my life?
4) How would not doing _____ be a detriment to my life?
Unconscious blocks are nearly impossible for you to identify and resolve on your own. It is often quite difficult to allow oneself to feel and express the various emotions which were originally felt and suppressed because to feel the feelings without adequate process is too painful. Unfortunately, processing events with loaded emotions is seldom done adequately. And yet, even now, unless this is done, healing will only become a partial achievement without a complete resolution of the issues involved—with continued negative impact consciously and unconsciously.
With the benefit of hypnosis and Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) these negative blocks can be eliminated. Once the negative blocks are eliminated at the core, you can keep your ego balanced by keeping your energy and focus on; who you truly are and your abilities.
Hypnosis is a dynamic and vital healing process embracing all aspects health care. Hypnosis is client-centered with its focus on the discovery of the origin of a person’s issues. Through the process of hypnosis/regression the unconscious mind goes to the original cause, which then gives the person and practitioner the opportunity to process the original feelings surrounding the original experience/cause. These surrounding feelings can be healed, thus empowering you to live the life you want to live. This study confirms—Hypnosis is more effective and works more quickly than traditional talk-therapy or psychoanalysis. In a hypnotic state, you are more receptive to new ideas and you can more effectively process the emotions linked to the experiences, which created pain, fear, sadness, anger, guilt, shame, humiliation and low self-esteem.
Through Hypnosis you connect with your subconscious mind, which puts YOU in control of your subconscious mind—the most powerful and empowering aspect of your brain.
American Health Magazine reported these findings from a comparison study.
• Psychoanalysis: Creates a 38% recovery after 600 sessions
• Behavior Therapy: Creates a 72% recovery after 22 sessions
• Hypnosis: Creates a 93% recovery after 6 sessions
NLP uses a set of strategies, axioms and beliefs about human communication, perception and subjective experience. The core principle is that an individual’s thoughts, gestures and words interact to create your perception of the world. By changing your outlook, using a variety of techniques, a person can improve their attitudes and behavior.
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